My brother had an affair with my girlfriend – is he actually my son’s father?

DEAR DEIDRE: FIRST I discovered that my brother was having an affair with my girlfriend after we first met. And now I’ve found that he could be the father of my son.

I am 29, my associate is 32, and we met at a velocity consciousness class the place we sat within the again and made unhealthy jokes about automobiles.


What the hell are we going to say to our son?

It was unusual how straightforward it was to speak to her – as if I had identified her for a few years.

For 3 weeks we spent virtually each night time collectively.

However six months later we have been in for a slightly large shock. She was pregnant.

It was a straightforward choice to maintain the child. I fell in love and wished to spend the remainder of my life together with her.

Our son was born in March. He’s excellent.

Final month my mother threw us a backyard social gathering so the entire household may meet their latest member.

I felt particular when my girlfriend held me beneath one arm and my son beneath the opposite.

As I used to be taking one other drink, I bumped into my uncle within the kitchen.

He thrashed and vaguely congratulated. However once I turned to go away, he stated, “Fortuitously, he does not seem like your brother in any respect.”

He was too drunk for me to get anything out of him, so I referred to as him the following day.

He tried to brush it off, saying that he was speaking nonsense. However in the long run he advised me the reality.

The primary month we have been in an informal relationship, my girlfriend bumped into my brother at a bar they usually had a one-night stand.

My brother, who’s 33 years outdated, advised my father, who advised his brother, my uncle.

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I used to be surprised. How may the 2 most essential individuals in my life mislead me for months? And what the hell are we going to say to our son?

I have never advised my girlfriend but that I do know, however she is aware of from my temper that one thing is flawed.

DEIDRA SAYS: Conserving all this a secret from you was merciless and unfair.

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Simply because a toddler is not biologically yours does not imply you possibly can’t have a relationship.

Saving this data will not do you any good, so sit your associate down in a non-public second and clarify what you have discovered.

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